About the Model
This model is a relationship polarity and connection model that was born out of necessity to support young people in making meaningful connections with each other and the adults that were trying to support them.
and others (e.g., clinic staff, colleagues, supervisors) who have adopted it as helpful tool in explaining and redirecting relationships in conflict back into connection.”
This model is a standalone teachable template that invites each of us when we are feeling trapped or frozen to come back to our sense of connection to each other and ourselves. It is designed so that we learn how to re-center without anything on the outside changing to fit our needs. It is a re-orienting “compass” that identifies polarizing relationships and where one fits in those polarities. Using a catchy visual and simple recipe for each polarity/archetype we embody in negative interactions, it teaches us how to get back to the humanness of heart and reconnect to those around us in a meaningful way.
Used with a variety of populations, this model can be helpful in working with any kind of relationship to support a new understanding of when we are caught in compassion-fatigue cycles instead of inspiring connections. As everyone remembers their curiosity, more positive effects are evident around us, within our own reactive patterns, and in the group dynamics of the our family, friendship, and professional circles. The model reminds us of the positive effects we are all having on each other and ourselves.
Previous reviews of this model (by professionals and academics) have connected it with systems science, attachment theory, intersubjective approaches, social constructionism and traditional individualism, biopsychosocial theories, and more. If you notice other connections, either scientific, philosophical, or spiritual, let us know. We would love to help this model grow and consider it a modern, “open source” work, ready to be changed and expanded by all who are pulled by it.